“It would be so much easier if one side didn’t care so much and would just walk away. But the love that we feel for a certain land or a particular set of principles or an understanding of God should not only move us to struggle for what we believe and hold sacred, but soften our hearts for people who feel the same way we do, even if they have reached different conclusions about to whom that land belongs, which set of principles is the one that demands their commitment, or which understanding of God is the one to which they give themselves over” (Rabbi Brad Hirschfield, pg 197, You Don’t Have To Be Wrong For Me To Be Right).
Comment made in regards to a term used about Eve ‘ezer k’ngedo’ which is translated as ‘a helper who is against him’ (Gen 2:18). Point being, Adam and Eve did not agree on everything – but what they did was compliment one another in relationship.
I feel this way about the faith I am in. The reason many of us lock horns in dispute – and sometimes get emotional over issues – is because we care about the ‘same’ issue. The fact we are both concerned reveals how close we truly are value wise – and that the dispute exists because of our shared value. Had no one cared – no debate at all.
I read Hirschfield yesterday and I was enlightened to this. I was very happy to read this – it was something I needed to hear – and this from a Jewish rabbi to a reading semi-Christian type person.
I realize that we all so share our concerns with one another and these are values we each have/share. I try to tow this line in conversation and I realize – this is what good faith should do and become – a faith needs to become one where we can ‘stand’ but also be ‘cordial’…where push does not lead to shove – but to love.
***Maybe I should convert to Judaism? Rabbi’s speak more to me than most Christian ministers do.