I havent said anything original in a while – so here are 2 things:
(1) Sperm Headed View of the World: I had a chance to watch a program called the ‘the great sperm race’ last night. I have to admit it truly fascinates me the miracle of life. Think about how you got here – your 1 of 250,000,000 million sperm vying for the egg to become life…on the way some 249,999,999 of those sperm will die in the race for that prize. You were the sperm that won that race and were deemed perfectly fine to inhabit the egg.
I am fascinated by the odds a lot – but I also got a real respect for the process of becoming life. The process to becoming life is trial after trial – weeding out the weak sperm – until one brilliant one takes on the challenges and overcomes them at each obstacle. If you think about it – your a miracle in some sense of the word and deserve to be here!
(2) Marriage (a working definition)
“For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.” (Gen 2:24)
“So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate” (Matt 19:6)
I got to thinking about this passage again – I swear I re-visit this idea a lot over the last 15 years – and I decided to define my view of marriage (a little more than prior).
Marriage is simply the committment of life of 2 people to one another – most significantly adjoined by the culmination of a child (which is the committment – not the ring or the contract). True committment is in the creation of the child – the committment from that point on is non negotiable – it’s 2 becoming 1 in many ways (family, child, committment, love/union) – but the child ensures their is a lasting ‘bond’.
Now marriage can be annulled for many reasons and this is the path many people will and have pursued – usually for their own well being. This is not ‘sin’ and never has been. Pieces of papers will wither away and rings can be traded in – this is not a problem…but children – they cannot be replaced nor reduced of their value. This is where the dissolution of a marriage meets the crux of the ‘sin’ debate concerning divorce.
“And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery” (Matt 19:9)
Note – divorce is ‘allowed’ (even by the very framing of this sentence). The key clause is because of the reason of ‘immorality’ (likely adultery)…but divorce can and does happen.
Now the ‘marries another’ part has been the point of contention in certain circles of Christianity. I am going to give my answer on this – divorce is not the ‘sinful’ part. The problem with marrying and then remarrying is found in the definition of ‘marriage’ or ‘2 become 1’ idea…the child (the committment).
Those that choose to re-marry have as their duty their committment to their children from their previous marriages and to not adhere to this responsibility is the ‘sin’. It basically shows us that the person that re-married is not actually fit material for another marriage – and they treat their own ‘flesh and blood’ like orphans. In this sense, they are committing a type of ‘sin’ – adultery? Yes, they are not supposed to re-marry without keeping their first committment in tact – their children.