“Some Pharisees came to Jesus, testing Him and asking, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any reason at all?” And He answered and said, “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE, and said, ‘FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.
They said to Him, “Why then did Moses command to GIVE HER A CERTIFICATE OF DIVORCE AND SEND her AWAY?” He said to them, Because of your hardness of heart Moses permitted you to divorce your wives; but from the beginning it has not been this way. And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery. The disciples said to Him, “If the relationship of the man with his wife is like this, it is better not to marry.”” (Matthew 19:3-10)
When you read that – what is being said about:
societyvs on October 26, 2009
Here is my take:
(1) This is a test – not resemblance of what the Pharisee’s believed – they just wanted to see Jesus’ answer to such a question (Jesus went to the law with his answer)
(2) Marriage seems to be something committed under God – in which the 2 become 1 and should not be broken up (the ideal)
(3) Moses allowed divorce – this is a known fact
(4) Jesus answers that this has not always been the case (the ideal again)
(5) But if divorce is to be allowed – immorality would be the issue. We can suppose sexual immorality is being hinted here (from previous teachings) but that fact he simply says immorality he could be referring to a number of law breaking ideas that would hurt your neighbor – in this case – your spouse (ie: violence could be an aspect of this).
(6) The disciples respond and mention if the relationship is this bonkers who would want to marry anyways? In which Jesus responds he who can handle such info should note it (seems to be directed more at men – noting a man’s personal responsibility in such an endeavor).
(7) In the end, marriage is a good thing but can become something abhorrent. It is in the cases when things get abhorrent that the ideal should be broken…but not only to re-marry – but for the sake of sanity. Maybe it is also a warning of how much pain can be dealt out if one leaves a marriage for the sake of re-marrying and the bitterness that can be found in that scenario (which makes sense to me). Marriage’s should be ended only for the right reasons and in the right way – so as to ease the pain in the scenario in general.